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Originally Posted by art4me
there is a bounty of love in my life and it comes from different sources and people. I open myself up to all the love around me.
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Many of us who carry the wounds of rejection and the accompanying sundry of self destructive emotions find it diffucult
to identify and ~USE~ real LOVE.
We Humans tend to gravitate towards feelings that are Familiar and when our familiar feelings are of rejection , loss and isolation, GSA suddenly seems so Comfortably Uncomfortable.
The wounded amongst us, reflexively gravitate towards emotional situations that Mirror our inner feelings of inadequacy.
Diving in to relationships that offer us little in the way of "nourishment" becomes a habit.
Opening ourselves to the possibility that we ourselves may have Misunderstood "What is LOVE ?"
suddenly affords us a way out of the painful grip of LOVE gone Wrong.
It takes a lot of courage to accept that we might have it wrong....
and the Biggest obstacle is,
that when we love, we SHINE,
but the wounds of our Unworthiness keep us from shining.
We are afraid..
Afraid to LOVE Proper,
Afraid of our own capacity to GIVE Uplift and inspire,
and why ????
Because at some stage in our lives we Chose to believe that one persons rejection of ~the part we could have played in their lives~ , meant that WE ARE NOT WORTHY
Limiting ourselves to think or believe that there is only ONE source of LOVE for any of us, is a Gross ~Missed Conception~
LoVe is actually all around all of us..
Our friends, family, pets and even total strangers can by chance offer us a Dose of Love Unconditional.
And when we stand at a place where we are stuck, feeling empty and hopeless the best action ,the most healing action we can perform, is to GIVE OUR LOVE to someone who needs it.
This forum is such a place....
soconfused......Is it possible that this unrequited feeling you have for your Brother is not really LOVE in its purest form, but instead is a reflection of neediness coming from deep inside the Core of YOUR own Being?
Could it be that all the energy and focus you are putting onto him would be better placed on YOU ?
Can you allow yourself to even contemplate the possibility that maybe just maybe you are obsessed with wanting what you cant have because in the beginning of your life , a sense of rejection was establised as an emotional pattern that has now risen to the surface like a weed that needs to be pulled ?
Your Husband and Children want and need you...
they are waiting to be showered with your love and affection yet you are stuck on giving what is rightfully theirs to someone who doesnt want or need it !
Forgive me if I sound Brash or too Frank..but I cant bear to see you suffer anymore....
Ive been where you are exactly....
I lived on the edge of wishing for DEATH to end my pain....
One day I realised that the LOVE I was carrying needed to be shared.....
and the person upon whom I had chosen to DUMP it on, didnt want it....
Meanwhile everybody else in my life who had stood by me in hard times, Loved me when I was unlovable, and Supported me without condition , and who deserved my Alliegence was being neglected because I was too blinded to see.
When I learned that the LOVE I was wanting ,
would come ~to~ ME
when I gave to others who were wanting ~from~ me ,
Magic happened.
Suddenly LoVe started to Flow..
and slowly slowly I became filled up to a point where I LoVed enough for it to Flow BACK TO ME.....
soconfused..you deserve to feel the same way I do about myself...
I am wonderful for so long as I am able to offer something to those who want from me...
"If I GIVE for the SAKE of giving..
Love for the sake of LOVING
Nothing
and no one can ever get me Down..."
are you still confused ?