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R&L
I have no doubt in my belief that what u love gets you in the end, so i know you will be together. It is just a matter of time. I just feel so sad for you both. It worries me thought that you dont let too much time come between you being together. Obviously we all understand here that a year can be a drop in the bucket of time. When the youngest child is 18 or of legal age ( dont know what that is in your country) make your move then. In the meantime tell the kids often that you will be with R, when the time is right. That way they will be somewhat prepared when it happens. I dont mean to sound harsh L, but woman to woman: If your kids decided to go to college far away or if something happened to put phys distance btween you, and it was their choice or if God forbid one died, where would you be? Are you the kind of woman who if, you take the kids out of the picture, you would be nothing with out them? You cant put them above your own needs forever.
I take it your comp time is limited because they monitor your comp activities also, maybe you can communicate on the comp at the library? Also btw, i wasnt suggesting that you move to usa, i know that would be way too hard for you both, i just wanted you to know how it is that we *get away* with it so easily. I just wish it were as easy for you also. Someday it will be. Being a sib couple is so much different from a non sib couple as i'm sure u know. You can only lie to yourself for so long, until the truth finds its way out. What I mean is that if you try to keep telling yourself that you can go on w/o each other, eventually you will realize that you cant and never could. So please do not *move on* to different relationships because you've given up on each other. I dont mean not to have any sexual relationships and make yourself completely unhappy. I mean dont get married to someone else because you think you wont make your way back to each other because you will. Right now, you just gotta do what you have to and know that someday you will be together. Because this is not an ordinary love. You also cant *pick* the one you fall in love with, it just happens. I want you both to know that I am here for you. Anytime you want to talk you can send a private message to me, and eventually we can trade our reg email address. Please dont be so hard on yourselves, you both deserve happiness and love. Be hopeful. I have you in my prayers. Take care of yourselves.
luvsbubby
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