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Rae
People have been already hurt! The "hurt" began at the very beginning. At the time when we were separated from each other. That is the original hurt. It takes something like GSA to wake us up, help us heal and learn what love is. Healing happens when we no longer hurt. That is what healing means. Many of us have been hurting for years, only we've become enured to it, we've accepted it, or buried it so deep we wouldn't let it touch us, because it was far too painful for us to even look at.
We may have had other events in our lives which asked us to look at healing, and if you look at the Laws of Attraction - you get what you focus on! This phenomenon is a huge sign saying Hey! It's time you started living a life, without pain, without being someone for somebody else, it's time to wake up!
The psychology of GSA begins at the very beginning. It begins with boding. It ends with bonding. For mothers and their babies, it began at time they were removed from each other. That hurt was immeasurable. And where I go next with this will have some people here questioning me, but this is what I know - for fathers, it happens when the mother is not available, for whatever that reason might be, and for brothers and sisters, it is when both parents are unavailable, it is a natural progression to bonding.
It is not something within our brains. It is something within our bodies. It is not our brain that is affected. It is our chemical make up. If it was our brain, all the therapy I have had would have "cured" me of my feelings and responses, and I can truthfully say, I have had GSA for 20 years, and it hasn't gone away for either my son or myself. It can't. Unless someone finds a drug to cure it, we're stuck with it I'm afraid.
As I've said earlier, there are many layers upon layers here, and it takes an open mind to work through it, understand it and accept it.
Learning what your body does, how it reacts, how it feels, is the key. Our thoughts actually come second to our bodily response. It is our thoughts that make it a maze of guilt, shame and fear. It's how we've been trained to think in this. Try changing your thoughts. Once you change your thoughts, you will find that everything you "feel" within GSA, remains exactly the same. Each time you are with your Beloved, your body will respond in exactly the same way as it did before. And no amount of therapy changes that. We just learn to deal with it and ourselves in a healthier way. Our mind plays tricks on us. It's not the brain that is affected here. It is not a psychological response, we do not have a mental illness, we were perfectly okay before this began weren't we?
Love and respect
Roe
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