What next?

bryon · 06-07-2006, 10:49 PM

I see that we are now being offered laminate flooring, what next? Anyway I once worked with a social worker who specialised in domestic violence. She told me that the abused and the abuser enter into a progressively worsening cycle of events, namely: the incident, a period of remorse, a period of calm followed by a period of tension and the next incident. I am determined to get to the bottom of GSA as some say that it is a myth. I have been experiencing this for two and a half years now and have just realised that both my sister and myself are also in a cycle as follows: a period of longing to be together which establishes contact, the kicked in the stomach sensation which leads to despair, breaking contact again because the despair is too great, a feeling of "time to let go and move on" and general wellbeing which then reverts back to the period of longing to be together again. I know that the ups and downs do resemble symptoms of depression but I feel that this is a "gsa cycle". I know that the cycle has to be broken but how? Take care Bryon.

06-07-2006, 11:43 PM

bryon

I totally agree with what you say here. My son and I experience the same type of rollercoaster of emotions. First it's the longing and need to be together - then the making contact - then the feeling of not wanting the emotion of NEEDING to be together - then the remorse of having those feelings, and then trying to cope and move on and get through another day. And the cycle continues - year after year. We experience a type magnetic pull - we're drawn together like two magnetics, and then sometimes it's like the magnetic turns into a repelling magnet when we get too close. It's too much for me most of the time. I try to turn it off - but the cycle just goes on and on. I have no answers. I only know that so far my son and I have managed to keep things to a low boil between us. I really try hard to be "mom" - but he doesn't want another mom. Most of the time I'm at a loss as to what to do or say next. So is he. We just keep trying - that's all we do - we just try.

joannewendy1 · 06-08-2006, 11:20 AM

that is like the most perfect description. Thank you for mirroring my feelings...that helps alot!

LovingBro · 06-09-2006, 02:22 AM

If you were to ask me about this 2 years ago, I would have told all of you that you were nuts and a bunch of sicko's. And I think most of society not faced with a true GSA experience would generally react similarly.

"Heck yes it's a myth, just an excuse to commit incest in one way shape or form"

2 years later, I am feeling like we should form a political movement to get state laws changed to allow for some exceptions and force society to accept both us, and GSA as a whole.

I have always been a fairly open minded person, mature and understanding of the plight of minority groups such as we are.

I feel that there are legitimate reasons for decriminilizing some relationships (age and role specific) when acted upon in adult consenting relationships.

Those of you who want to enter into a relationship with others that are minors DO NEED TO GO TO JAIL. Sorry, even I have limits and some prejudices.

Is it a myth? Definately not. I was shocked at my own reactions with my sis and struggled with it for a long time trying to put my social and spiritual morals against it. I have never before had a problem correcting myself if I thought I was drifting into moral quicksand until now.

Just my 2 cents worth, thanks for listening.

06-07-2006, 10:49 PM	#1
bryon Junior Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: yukon Posts: 8	What next? I see that we are now being offered laminate flooring, what next? Anyway I once worked with a social worker who specialised in domestic violence. She told me that the abused and the abuser enter into a progressively worsening cycle of events, namely: the incident, a period of remorse, a period of calm followed by a period of tension and the next incident. I am determined to get to the bottom of GSA as some say that it is a myth. I have been experiencing this for two and a half years now and have just realised that both my sister and myself are also in a cycle as follows: a period of longing to be together which establishes contact, the kicked in the stomach sensation which leads to despair, breaking contact again because the despair is too great, a feeling of "time to let go and move on" and general wellbeing which then reverts back to the period of longing to be together again. I know that the ups and downs do resemble symptoms of depression but I feel that this is a "gsa cycle". I know that the cycle has to be broken but how? Take care Bryon.

06-09-2006, 02:22 AM	#4
LovingBro Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: LSW Heart Posts: 15	GSA a Myth? I think not! If you were to ask me about this 2 years ago, I would have told all of you that you were nuts and a bunch of sicko's. And I think most of society not faced with a true GSA experience would generally react similarly. "Heck yes it's a myth, just an excuse to commit incest in one way shape or form" 2 years later, I am feeling like we should form a political movement to get state laws changed to allow for some exceptions and force society to accept both us, and GSA as a whole. I have always been a fairly open minded person, mature and understanding of the plight of minority groups such as we are. I feel that there are legitimate reasons for decriminilizing some relationships (age and role specific) when acted upon in adult consenting relationships. Those of you who want to enter into a relationship with others that are minors DO NEED TO GO TO JAIL. Sorry, even I have limits and some prejudices. Is it a myth? Definately not. I was shocked at my own reactions with my sis and struggled with it for a long time trying to put my social and spiritual morals against it. I have never before had a problem correcting myself if I thought I was drifting into moral quicksand until now. Just my 2 cents worth, thanks for listening.

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06-07-2006, 11:43 PM	#2
Posts: n/a	bryon I totally agree with what you say here. My son and I experience the same type of rollercoaster of emotions. First it's the longing and need to be together - then the making contact - then the feeling of not wanting the emotion of NEEDING to be together - then the remorse of having those feelings, and then trying to cope and move on and get through another day. And the cycle continues - year after year. We experience a type magnetic pull - we're drawn together like two magnetics, and then sometimes it's like the magnetic turns into a repelling magnet when we get too close. It's too much for me most of the time. I try to turn it off - but the cycle just goes on and on. I have no answers. I only know that so far my son and I have managed to keep things to a low boil between us. I really try hard to be "mom" - but he doesn't want another mom. Most of the time I'm at a loss as to what to do or say next. So is he. We just keep trying - that's all we do - we just try.

06-08-2006, 11:20 AM	#3
joannewendy1 Junior Member Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 9	that is like the most perfect description. Thank you for mirroring my feelings...that helps alot!