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hamsterfan11 · 02-04-2009, 05:02 PM

I am searching for someone to talk too. I am 37 yrs old and was adopted. I recently found my family in Nov 2008. Turns out I have 3 brothers and I am the only girl. I have met all my brothers but have a strong connection to one. We have talked about GSA because we both feel a strong connection. I recently went out of town with him and another one of my brothers. We did not sleep together but he tried. He lives in another state and I am miserable without him. I have searched for books or anything that can help me get some answers. If anyone can please help me with advice or just make me understand why we are feeling the way we are and what should we do about it, it would help alot.

lostintranslation · 02-06-2009, 02:03 PM

I certainly understand. I am 31 myself but since I was 19 my half brother and I have been sexually imtimate and living together. I met him when i was 17 and he was 23, he had a steady long term girlfriend who didn't mind the close bond he and I shared. My brother and I knew it was deeper then just what people saw on the surface. When they brokeup, not because of me; it just sort of seemed natural that we be together. It was fustrating at first because you do not have the same freedoms most "socially accepted" couples have. We struggled to find private time, we did a lot of hiding and sneaking around even though we were both old enough and mentally capable of making our own choices. I sometimes think the family suspected, but he would date other women. When he would do that I would become extremely jealous which was weird to me to understand because he was the only person I have ever felt that way over. Even now after 12 years and the little songs and dances we put on for the world when he dates or has a girlfriend, it is extremely uncomfortable for me. I experience all the anxiety, pain, and suffering of someone being cheated upon. I'd try to date other guys but I couldn't. I couldn't be intimate with them not like I could be with my halfbrother. It felt like I was cheating on him. Currently we live together, but I feel our time is drawing to a close soon because I want him and all his glory to be mine sololy but he wants a family of his own, kids, the whole wife experience. This pains me because by all respects I am his wife. I am tortured, but I understand his dilemma. He is now 38, it is weighting on our relationship heavily because he is reaching the point of no return he says. He says in the next life we will be husband and wife, have a family, and truly be happy. I use to cling to that dream but now I believe I am just doomed to love someone I cannot truly have. Not just love him with my heart, but soul, mind and body. I caution anyone, but I do not regret the heartaches and trials we have had.

If anyone has advice on how to deal with hostile and jealously issues or has experienced it in this regard please I am all eyes and ears. I feel my only escape is the obvious one leave and no contact...that would be just about the death of me.

02-06-2009, 02:03 PM	#22
lostintranslation Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 1	I certainly understand. I am 31 myself but since I was 19 my half brother and I have been sexually imtimate and living together. I met him when i was 17 and he was 23, he had a steady long term girlfriend who didn't mind the close bond he and I shared. My brother and I knew it was deeper then just what people saw on the surface. When they brokeup, not because of me; it just sort of seemed natural that we be together. It was fustrating at first because you do not have the same freedoms most "socially accepted" couples have. We struggled to find private time, we did a lot of hiding and sneaking around even though we were both old enough and mentally capable of making our own choices. I sometimes think the family suspected, but he would date other women. When he would do that I would become extremely jealous which was weird to me to understand because he was the only person I have ever felt that way over. Even now after 12 years and the little songs and dances we put on for the world when he dates or has a girlfriend, it is extremely uncomfortable for me. I experience all the anxiety, pain, and suffering of someone being cheated upon. I'd try to date other guys but I couldn't. I couldn't be intimate with them not like I could be with my halfbrother. It felt like I was cheating on him. Currently we live together, but I feel our time is drawing to a close soon because I want him and all his glory to be mine sololy but he wants a family of his own, kids, the whole wife experience. This pains me because by all respects I am his wife. I am tortured, but I understand his dilemma. He is now 38, it is weighting on our relationship heavily because he is reaching the point of no return he says. He says in the next life we will be husband and wife, have a family, and truly be happy. I use to cling to that dream but now I believe I am just doomed to love someone I cannot truly have. Not just love him with my heart, but soul, mind and body. I caution anyone, but I do not regret the heartaches and trials we have had. If anyone has advice on how to deal with hostile and jealously issues or has experienced it in this regard please I am all eyes and ears. I feel my only escape is the obvious one leave and no contact...that would be just about the death of me. Last edited by lostintranslation : 02-06-2009 at 02:06 PM. Reason: typo

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02-04-2009, 05:02 PM	#21
hamsterfan11 Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 2	I am searching for someone to talk too. I am 37 yrs old and was adopted. I recently found my family in Nov 2008. Turns out I have 3 brothers and I am the only girl. I have met all my brothers but have a strong connection to one. We have talked about GSA because we both feel a strong connection. I recently went out of town with him and another one of my brothers. We did not sleep together but he tried. He lives in another state and I am miserable without him. I have searched for books or anything that can help me get some answers. If anyone can please help me with advice or just make me understand why we are feeling the way we are and what should we do about it, it would help alot.