Significant Others

BarbGonyo · 04-24-2006, 03:55 PM

TO ALL WHO READ THIS SITE

I was privileged this week end to have two very special people who were visiting in Chicago come to visit me.

This is a husband and wife who have dealt with GSA. GSA caused many problems due to no education on their part as to what was happening to everyone.. I have deep admiration for them both because they are searching to find answers and ways to grow back together with love and insight into what GSA is.

While they were here I asked them to view the Documentary "Family Secrets" which was made by September Films about GSA. I think they found the film helpful and insightful.

In our conversation we spoke of the Significant Other, the person who had to stand on the sidelines and watch while this bonding process of reunions not only took place but seem to be out of control. Strangely enough it was the husband who found our GSA website and finally was able to understand more clearly that this was not a case of insanity or of sexaul predators but of two people wanting to erase all the years of pain they had endured being apart.

I have always felt that there needs to be help for those who are standing by wondering what is going on in their lives. Who can they talk to? At one time we had no one to talk to about this and now we can, but where do they go for support.

This man has suggested starting a significant other website and we talked about how good we thought that would be. I have offered to have him post the proposal to all of you to see if you would have an interest in this.

If you are one of these people who thinks that the world has gone crazy or that a member of your family is going off the deep end because of their feelings for a reunited relative or that GSA is not a real cause for help and don't understand what it is all about, please write in with your thoughts.

If we see a need, he will be able to share his knowledge and experience and hopefully some answers for those of you who think you are the only one this is happening to.

Please remember there is sometimes great pain in these taboo relationships so lets be kind to one another and not judgemental. Remember it could happen to any one of us.

Barb Gonyo

ReadytoGiveUp · 04-26-2006, 12:28 PM

Hi Barb,

I have posted on this site before and would definitely be interested in having a forum for significant others, as I feel my relationship has been wrecked by gsa. Please let me know if and when such a forum gets off the ground.

BarbGonyo · 04-26-2006, 05:11 PM

Hello Ready,

Thank you for letting me know of you interest in a S.O. Forum on this site. Please keep checking in to see what happens. Others like yourself may also read the announcement and want to share. That is how it gets started. Hopefully the man I spoke to last week will jump right in and share his story.

Barb Gonyo

TheOtherWoman · 05-21-2006, 12:28 AM

Hello!

I'm a wife who lost my husband to GSA. We "found" each other again and are putting it back together. There is also a new baby in the mix. We are all trying to put this back together, but there is a lot of pain that we all must get through. And, yes, my issues are different than their issues. It would be good to have a forum where we S.O.'s can give and receive support for our own issues.

Thanks!

tealrose · 12-31-2006, 11:32 AM

Hi Barb,

Just curious to see if the site for significant others has started...

Sharon · 01-06-2007, 03:59 PM

I just joined the site today and posted on the reunion site but then came across this posting on the feedback site. I would definietely be interested in a S.O. site since I lost my husband a few months ago to a case of GSA

Morena · 08-23-2007, 05:16 PM

I've recently joined.
I think this would be fabulous.
My husband and I have been stuck for the past 4 yrs because of my GSA with my hb. I may have said his name 5 times (not at all to my husband) in those years because I don't want to rehash all the pain I caused him. But on the other hand, I still feel 'unforgiven' and that too carries a lot of pain.
Please tell me if you have gotten a support group for the S.O.
Thank you.

04-24-2006, 03:55 PM	#1
BarbGonyo Administrator Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 277	Significant Others TO ALL WHO READ THIS SITE I was privileged this week end to have two very special people who were visiting in Chicago come to visit me. This is a husband and wife who have dealt with GSA. GSA caused many problems due to no education on their part as to what was happening to everyone.. I have deep admiration for them both because they are searching to find answers and ways to grow back together with love and insight into what GSA is. While they were here I asked them to view the Documentary "Family Secrets" which was made by September Films about GSA. I think they found the film helpful and insightful. In our conversation we spoke of the Significant Other, the person who had to stand on the sidelines and watch while this bonding process of reunions not only took place but seem to be out of control. Strangely enough it was the husband who found our GSA website and finally was able to understand more clearly that this was not a case of insanity or of sexaul predators but of two people wanting to erase all the years of pain they had endured being apart. I have always felt that there needs to be help for those who are standing by wondering what is going on in their lives. Who can they talk to? At one time we had no one to talk to about this and now we can, but where do they go for support. This man has suggested starting a significant other website and we talked about how good we thought that would be. I have offered to have him post the proposal to all of you to see if you would have an interest in this. If you are one of these people who thinks that the world has gone crazy or that a member of your family is going off the deep end because of their feelings for a reunited relative or that GSA is not a real cause for help and don't understand what it is all about, please write in with your thoughts. If we see a need, he will be able to share his knowledge and experience and hopefully some answers for those of you who think you are the only one this is happening to. Please remember there is sometimes great pain in these taboo relationships so lets be kind to one another and not judgemental. Remember it could happen to any one of us. Barb Gonyo __________________ Barbara is the author of "I'm His Mother,but He's Not My Son" (formerly titled "The Forbidden Love, GSA". In the paper back edition of Forbidden Love, there are a total of 20 books left in that form. "The Forbidden Love Genetic Sexual Attraction is $15.00 plus postage and handling. Postage varies in places. In the U.S. postage comes to $2.31 Austrailia Fast Slower $8.40 one week $4.05- 4 weeks New I'm His Mother, but, He's Not My Son" will now be available electronically for your convience. The price is $15.00 check made out to Barbara Gonyo 906 Ioka Mt. Prospect, IL 60056 Upon receiving the order you will be given instructions on how to obtain the book. I hope this will be helpful to all of you who were having trouble getting the book. Barb Gonyo

04-26-2006, 05:11 PM	#3
BarbGonyo Administrator Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 277	Ready to give up on subject Significant Other Hello Ready, Thank you for letting me know of you interest in a S.O. Forum on this site. Please keep checking in to see what happens. Others like yourself may also read the announcement and want to share. That is how it gets started. Hopefully the man I spoke to last week will jump right in and share his story. Barb Gonyo __________________ Barbara is the author of "I'm His Mother,but He's Not My Son" (formerly titled "The Forbidden Love, GSA". In the paper back edition of Forbidden Love, there are a total of 20 books left in that form. "The Forbidden Love Genetic Sexual Attraction is $15.00 plus postage and handling. Postage varies in places. In the U.S. postage comes to $2.31 Austrailia Fast Slower $8.40 one week $4.05- 4 weeks New I'm His Mother, but, He's Not My Son" will now be available electronically for your convience. The price is $15.00 check made out to Barbara Gonyo 906 Ioka Mt. Prospect, IL 60056 Upon receiving the order you will be given instructions on how to obtain the book. I hope this will be helpful to all of you who were having trouble getting the book. Barb Gonyo

05-21-2006, 12:28 AM	#4
TheOtherWoman Junior Member Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 12	Interest in S.O. site Hello! I'm a wife who lost my husband to GSA. We "found" each other again and are putting it back together. There is also a new baby in the mix. We are all trying to put this back together, but there is a lot of pain that we all must get through. And, yes, my issues are different than their issues. It would be good to have a forum where we S.O.'s can give and receive support for our own issues. Thanks!

12-31-2006, 11:32 AM	#5
tealrose Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 2	is the site for Others running yet? Hi Barb, Just curious to see if the site for significant others has started...

08-23-2007, 05:16 PM	#7
Morena Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 6	response to S.O. I've recently joined. I think this would be fabulous. My husband and I have been stuck for the past 4 yrs because of my GSA with my hb. I may have said his name 5 times (not at all to my husband) in those years because I don't want to rehash all the pain I caused him. But on the other hand, I still feel 'unforgiven' and that too carries a lot of pain. Please tell me if you have gotten a support group for the S.O. Thank you.

04-26-2006, 12:28 PM	#2
ReadytoGiveUp Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 4	Hi Barb, I have posted on this site before and would definitely be interested in having a forum for significant others, as I feel my relationship has been wrecked by gsa. Please let me know if and when such a forum gets off the ground.

01-06-2007, 03:59 PM	#6
Sharon Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 4	I just joined the site today and posted on the reunion site but then came across this posting on the feedback site. I would definietely be interested in a S.O. site since I lost my husband a few months ago to a case of GSA

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