Anyone Else On Here Have A Child...

Rareone · 03-29-2007, 05:59 PM

with their sibling? If so, do you have other children? Do the other children know? Do the child that you have together know?

As I have said in my first post "My Secret Exposed, Thankfully, Finally" I talked about how me and my brother have a 6 year old daugther together and she is noticing similarities between him and her. She doesn't know...yet and I'm not sure when I should tell her. We (me and my brother) agreed to do it when the other died, but that may be 80 years from now and let's face it, she may be gone before we are (forbid :evil: :evil: ). So I was just curious to hear other stories about how things have worked out for you and yours.

Thank you

sarat · 03-30-2007, 05:25 AM

Are you together as a couple now? Or is she being brought up with Dad as her uncle? Either way if he's her uncle, she may look like him and she would have similarities if he was her father. Either way families do look similar, maybe that would be the way to explain it at the age she is.

Rareone · 03-30-2007, 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by sarat

Are you together as a couple now? Or is she being brought up with Dad as her uncle? Either way if he's her uncle, she may look like him and she would have similarities if he was her father. Either way families do look similar, maybe that would be the way to explain it at the age she is.

She is basically being brought up with her uncle in the Dad role, so to speak. We both are trying to get her to see it from the angle of she looks like him because she is his niece. But when it is clear that she looks more like him than me and more like him than his other children..it makes it kind of weird. We know nobody has told her anything for her to just say it out of nowhere (that is what I intially thought). But we will continue reinforcing it. I think now is wayyyy too soon for her to know the truth.

lostsister · 03-31-2007, 01:23 PM

Hi Rareone,

I have four Children.....

When my Youngest Daughter was Born my Husband and I noticed right away, that she looked like a dead ringer for his Youngest sister...In Fact within minutes of her Birth, we were laughing about it...
As she Grew the resemblace became even stronger, to such a degree, whenever we went out, all of us..ie my sister in law (with whom we are very close anyway) my husband, and Our Little grl, and I, People always always Believed that my sister in law was her Mother and Not I....
People actually stuggled to come to terms with it....because my daughter is so different to me.....

In fact had I not Birthed her, I too could have had my doubts :lol:

Last Year , SIS in Law Got married, and My Daughter now 15 was in the Bridal party....The resmebalce between the two is incredible...My Daughter is my sister rin laws "mini me"....Their Hair,Their hands, their feet, which are unusual, are like plaster casts of each others..We have all examined them and commented... from the back they have the same body shape, facial expressions as well as facial features, and even in personality....Consequently my Daughter and my SIL are very close....
Its become something that our family finds very endearing....

Further more..I have two sons...My Husband and I are both under 173 cms...so too the rest of his family...
but our two sons are a mammoth 184cms...at Family Gatherings they tower over everyone...."everyone "
Again...its always been a family joke that I slept with the Milkman....( pretty sure I didnt )...anyway...this year on making contact with my h/b I find that he is also 184cm, and the lower part of his face, his smile, is ecactly the same as my eldest Sons...
So my Point....?
Sometimes the Genetic Gene Pool is lke that ! Its not at all unusual for once removed family members to bear a striking resemblance,

so.....For what its worth..... ! ! !

R E L A X...If I were you, Id start making it known that your daughter looks so much like your brother myself...before other family members or people notice or comment....Use it as a way of introducing the subject of genetics to your daughter..get techinical if you wnat..she will no doubt find it interesting, even at 6 she can begin to learn about it...

and

Marvel yourself at the mystery of G E N E T I C S !

.

Red · 04-15-2007, 12:29 PM

I haven't been on here for a while but really need some kind of constructive advice now. My f/b and I have been together for almost two years now but I am becoming ever more conscious that he would love a child of his own. Is there anyone here who has been in this situation and could advise me? I am obviously concerned not only about the possibility of genetic problems but also about the emotional impact on the child. Any advice would be gratefully received.

clyde-bonnie · 07-05-2007, 09:03 PM

I have a daughter with bonnie(my h/s). She lives with Bonnie while I have been 2300 miles away after our family shipped me off to another state 22 years ago (they leaned on me heavily and I was young). She asked Bonnie about her bio dad quite a few years ago, but wasn't interested in meeting me until she had a son. We got along ok after that. She is now the first in the family to know that Bonnie and I are getting back together again. That didn't go well. I will always have a place in my heart for her. And she and my grandchildren will always be welcome where ever we are.

One down. Three daughters to go (me 1, her 2), to be followed by a large family. Only now Bonnie and I are adults and don't need their approval. There is a big world out there. We will find a place in it.

Martin1932 · 01-22-2008, 07:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Rareone

with their sibling? If so, do you have other children? Do the other children know? Do the child that you have together know?

As I have said in my first post "My Secret Exposed, Thankfully, Finally" I talked about how me and my brother have a 6 year old daugther together and she is noticing similarities between him and her. She doesn't know...yet and I'm not sure when I should tell her. We (me and my brother) agreed to do it when the other died, but that may be 80 years from now and let's face it, she may be gone before we are (forbid :evil: :evil: ). So I was just curious to hear other stories about how things have worked out for you and yours.

Thank you

Yes, my sister had a daughter that I fathered with her when she was a junior in college. Our daughter was told of her parentage at age 13, which for her was a good time. I was married at the time of the pregnancy and my sister married others later. Both families have other children and now are aware of their half cousin + half sister combination. Our daughter is a beautiful intelligent girl, but divorced and mother of a youngster in college.

Victor · 01-22-2008, 10:34 PM

And I would be willing to bet that each and every one of these kids are normal and healthy.....so much for an old wives tale.

simba · 01-23-2008, 12:53 AM

my b/f and i have a beautiful intelligent two year old together,nothing at all wrong with her.id even go so far as to say shes more advanced in her developement than my other children were at her age.as far as telling her about her parentage,i myself doubt i will ever tell her that.in my view,what she doesnt know wont hurt her.
so yes victor,so much for the old wives tales........................

sandras · 01-25-2008, 06:40 PM

Hello Rareone,
My nephew and I, who have been together for over ten years now, have a beautiful, healthy daughter together.
I have two grown daughters from a failed first marriage - both girls are a couple of years younger than my nephew. They both know about my relationship with my nephew, as do my mother, and my sister, my nephew's mother.
When news of my affair with my nephew broke - it was my two daughters who told my mother they were suspecting us - both my mother and sister turned their backs on us. In a way I think it made my nephew's move into our house just that much easier.
My two daughters were extremely unhappy with this arrangement, but being underaged at the time, had no alternative but to accept the situation. My pregnancy by my nephew drew the final wedge between my daughters and I, and a few years later, when the elder of the two became of age, both of my daughters left home.
My baby daughter by my nephew will be turning ten this year, and does not know that her father is my sister's son. My nephew and I - I really should stop calling him my nephew, for even though we are not married, I think of him as my husband, for he fathered my child, and if it wasn't for the restrictions we have imposed on us, we'd have gotten married along time ago - are hope ful of telling our little girl one day when she is grown up.
So Rareone, I believe you have nothing to be ashamed of, and one day, when your child is a bit older, it might be the right thing to tell her.
Lots of love.
Sandra

03-29-2007, 05:59 PM	#1
Rareone Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 9	Anyone Else On Here Have A Child... with their sibling? If so, do you have other children? Do the other children know? Do the child that you have together know? As I have said in my first post "My Secret Exposed, Thankfully, Finally" I talked about how me and my brother have a 6 year old daugther together and she is noticing similarities between him and her. She doesn't know...yet and I'm not sure when I should tell her. We (me and my brother) agreed to do it when the other died, but that may be 80 years from now and let's face it, she may be gone before we are (forbid :evil: :evil: ). So I was just curious to hear other stories about how things have worked out for you and yours. Thank you

03-31-2007, 01:23 PM	#4
lostsister Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 57	The Genetic Gene Pool Hi Rareone, I have four Children..... When my Youngest Daughter was Born my Husband and I noticed right away, that she looked like a dead ringer for his Youngest sister...In Fact within minutes of her Birth, we were laughing about it... As she Grew the resemblace became even stronger, to such a degree, whenever we went out, all of us..ie my sister in law (with whom we are very close anyway) my husband, and Our Little grl, and I, People always always Believed that my sister in law was her Mother and Not I.... People actually stuggled to come to terms with it....because my daughter is so different to me..... In fact had I not Birthed her, I too could have had my doubts :lol: Last Year , SIS in Law Got married, and My Daughter now 15 was in the Bridal party....The resmebalce between the two is incredible...My Daughter is my sister rin laws "mini me"....Their Hair,Their hands, their feet, which are unusual, are like plaster casts of each others..We have all examined them and commented... from the back they have the same body shape, facial expressions as well as facial features, and even in personality....Consequently my Daughter and my SIL are very close.... Its become something that our family finds very endearing.... Further more..I have two sons...My Husband and I are both under 173 cms...so too the rest of his family... but our two sons are a mammoth 184cms...at Family Gatherings they tower over everyone...."everyone " Again...its always been a family joke that I slept with the Milkman....( pretty sure I didnt )...anyway...this year on making contact with my h/b I find that he is also 184cm, and the lower part of his face, his smile, is ecactly the same as my eldest Sons... So my Point....? Sometimes the Genetic Gene Pool is lke that ! Its not at all unusual for once removed family members to bear a striking resemblance, so.....For what its worth..... ! ! ! R E L A X...If I were you, Id start making it known that your daughter looks so much like your brother myself...before other family members or people notice or comment....Use it as a way of introducing the subject of genetics to your daughter..get techinical if you wnat..she will no doubt find it interesting, even at 6 she can begin to learn about it... and Marvel yourself at the mystery of G E N E T I C S ! . __________________ "Pain bonds us closer together than Joy ever Can"

07-05-2007, 09:03 PM	#6
clyde-bonnie Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: California Posts: 7	We have a daughter. I have a daughter with bonnie(my h/s). She lives with Bonnie while I have been 2300 miles away after our family shipped me off to another state 22 years ago (they leaned on me heavily and I was young). She asked Bonnie about her bio dad quite a few years ago, but wasn't interested in meeting me until she had a son. We got along ok after that. She is now the first in the family to know that Bonnie and I are getting back together again. That didn't go well. I will always have a place in my heart for her. And she and my grandchildren will always be welcome where ever we are. One down. Three daughters to go (me 1, her 2), to be followed by a large family. Only now Bonnie and I are adults and don't need their approval. There is a big world out there. We will find a place in it. __________________ I am bonnie-clyde's clyde, and she is my beautiful bonnie.

01-25-2008, 06:40 PM	#10
sandras Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Pretoria, South Africa Posts: 7	My nephew and I have a daughter Hello Rareone, My nephew and I, who have been together for over ten years now, have a beautiful, healthy daughter together. I have two grown daughters from a failed first marriage - both girls are a couple of years younger than my nephew. They both know about my relationship with my nephew, as do my mother, and my sister, my nephew's mother. When news of my affair with my nephew broke - it was my two daughters who told my mother they were suspecting us - both my mother and sister turned their backs on us. In a way I think it made my nephew's move into our house just that much easier. My two daughters were extremely unhappy with this arrangement, but being underaged at the time, had no alternative but to accept the situation. My pregnancy by my nephew drew the final wedge between my daughters and I, and a few years later, when the elder of the two became of age, both of my daughters left home. My baby daughter by my nephew will be turning ten this year, and does not know that her father is my sister's son. My nephew and I - I really should stop calling him my nephew, for even though we are not married, I think of him as my husband, for he fathered my child, and if it wasn't for the restrictions we have imposed on us, we'd have gotten married along time ago - are hope ful of telling our little girl one day when she is grown up. So Rareone, I believe you have nothing to be ashamed of, and one day, when your child is a bit older, it might be the right thing to tell her. Lots of love. Sandra

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03-30-2007, 05:25 AM	#2
sarat Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 13	Are you together as a couple now? Or is she being brought up with Dad as her uncle? Either way if he's her uncle, she may look like him and she would have similarities if he was her father. Either way families do look similar, maybe that would be the way to explain it at the age she is.

04-15-2007, 12:29 PM	#5
Red Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: England Posts: 40	I haven't been on here for a while but really need some kind of constructive advice now. My f/b and I have been together for almost two years now but I am becoming ever more conscious that he would love a child of his own. Is there anyone here who has been in this situation and could advise me? I am obviously concerned not only about the possibility of genetic problems but also about the emotional impact on the child. Any advice would be gratefully received.

01-22-2008, 10:34 PM	#8
Victor Super Moderator Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: USA Posts: 371	And I would be willing to bet that each and every one of these kids are normal and healthy.....so much for an old wives tale.

01-23-2008, 12:53 AM	#9
simba Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 10	my b/f and i have a beautiful intelligent two year old together,nothing at all wrong with her.id even go so far as to say shes more advanced in her developement than my other children were at her age.as far as telling her about her parentage,i myself doubt i will ever tell her that.in my view,what she doesnt know wont hurt her. so yes victor,so much for the old wives tales........................