GSA is a phenomenon of familial bonding that has been delayed until adulthood.

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By Carly Sullens

1. GSA is a natural response to a broken situation. Humans have been designed to bond with their kin starting at the onset of the relationship and for whatever reasons (divorce, abandonment, adoption) it did not happen. This need to bond, which has been dormant for years, finally has the opportunity at the reunion to form a fierce and profound connection.

2.  When these ‘strangers’ finally meet, their brain does not register a family member, they register a stranger that has a title of ‘brother, sister, mother or father.’  As a result, unexpected appealing desires, an attraction to a kin member that is involuntary and overwhelming with intimacy initiates GSA.

3.  GSA provokes an immensity of yearning; emotionally, psychologically, and physically to unite and secure the bond that has been missing and now seems impossible to live without.

4. GSA can be emotionally, mentally and psychologically traumatic. Often those who reunite with a loved one are unprepared and unaware that GSA can happen. It is so unexpected that meeting a family member would create an experience of sexual attraction that it can easily overwhelms an individual's ability to cope.

5. GSA can create a vortex where the two family members affected begin to isolate themselves from other family members, close friends, work and the world. It can be an isolating and scary passage. Individuals may feel helpless by their situation and thus withdrawal from others or even other's withdrawing from them because of GSA.

6. There is no quick solution for managing the intensity of GSA. However, pacing and allowing time to be an ally in slowing things down can help ease with the transition.  

7. Once you have sex with your family member you can never ever erase the action.  Acting on the sexual desires does not necessarily promote a long lasting intimate attachment. It ultimately is not enough to maintain the relationship the person so longs for. At some point during the GSA relationship is the realization that sex, is not the solution to the pain and yearning for the past to be undone. Or the security of a future together. Both members must find more to the relationship to make it work.

 

8. Their is a grief that must be acknowledge and dealt with and that is reconciling the denied history and years of what you were suppose to be to each other in the family unit.

9. Many people who have gone through GSA will say that it was one of the most defining and painful moments in their entire life; trumping births, deaths, marriages, divorces, and other significant events in terms of it's all consuming nature and emotional upheaval.

10. Statistically speaking, GSA that results in a sexual relationship usually is the catalyst for further and permanent separation, not just from that family member, but from an entire family unit.

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